According to my google search, the synonyms for self love are: conceit, vainglory, vanity and narcism. Am I right in saying that most of us wouldn’t chose to describe ourselves as narcissistic? I wouldn’t think so anyway, as much as either of us would depict ourselves as conceited or vain.
But self love could not be further away from these negative synonyms, and yet If I openly expressed to society that I loved myself, well I would probably attract some funny stares and judgmental comments. Why are we suspicious and critical of people who love themselves? Surely to love oneself is the ultimate goal we all strive for? Why can’t we shout about it too?
Because before you can love yourself, you sure as hell aren’t capable of loving anyone else. If you are filled with anxiety and keep punishing and hurting yourself, you are effectively wasting energy and leaving no room to love anyone else too. How can you expect to be in a healthy, thriving relationship if most of your thoughts are governed my self hate and pity?
When we give in to bad thoughts about ourselves, we are hurting ourselves and inflicting unnecessary pain. When I start to criticise myself, well I stop smiling, my eyes go dull, my energy levels drop and my motivation to do pretty much ANYTHING is down the pan. It’s a downward spiral of misery, who would want to spend time with someone like that? I know I wouldn’t!
If we treat ourselves with love and care and only think positive things about ourselves, that’s when we smile, that’s how we become happy. It really is that simple! When we only have love for ourselves, we are capable of loving others. Our happiness manifests and we attract healthy, loving relationships.
Which brings me to the question, why does self love hold such bad conotations? If by loving yourself you are effectively doing the number one most important thing in spreading more love in a world where it’s clearly needed, why the bad press?
We need to accept that loving ourselves is not just acceptable, it’s essential! And the sooner we can confidently say ‘MAN AM I AWESOME’ without there being anything negative about it, well the sooner we can live in a happier, more peaceful world.